my girlfriend and i just had a discussion about relationships - chivalry, courting, and the man who wants it "all." he's looking for a modern woman who will take on traditional roles, e.g., cooking, cleaning, nurturing... someone who will bring home the bacon, clean the house, be a mom, stay in shape (keep it tight), and still have enough energy for sexy time.
this discussion raised two important questions: what the hell is the man doing? and, why in the world would that woman want YOU?
nowadays, it's not often you meet a man who knows how to fix a flat tire, let alone change the oil. ladies, how many men open doors? do not attempt to sleep with you within a week or two of dating? and, offer to swing by your house to fix that leaky faucet? the "modern" man would rather pay someone than learn how to do it himself.
don't get me wrong, i know men who fit the bill of the aforementioned, and it's refreshing, AND in all fairness, i know women who can mix a mean cocktail, but are clueless when it comes to mixing ingredients into a bowl for a home cooked meal. women who want to be swept off their feet, and want men to make the first move, but are quick to preach that they're strong and don't need a man to complete them.
it's not about that.
if we value traditions, why do we ignore them for ourselves but require them from someone else?
i believe manners, and all around chivalry are the glue of society. so many people have abandoned good, sound, traditional acts of rightness, that the lack of civility has fudged up the dating scene.
guys, being a gentleman is still one of the sexiest qualities you can possess. the pool of eligible, compatible, marry-able men is so depleted that most women settle for not having the little niceties like being respected and even a little revered. if you're looking for superwoman, you better (gentle)man-up.
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